From a super young age I was ALWAYS very frisky, but I can't seem to fantasize about men anymore (yes it is classical depression I know). I'm 30. I'm scared about never feeling as sexy as I used to (and I loved sex, fantasized about love, believed in trust) because of body changes, and because I feel like I can't get excited about men anymore. I had such high hope for me and guys, but now they all seem so shallow to me. I can't imagine wanting one as badly as I used to before getting disillusioned. (I'm not to the point yet where I want women, I'm not attracted to vijayjays)

If you hit bottom, but climbed your way out to joy I want to hear from you.

I want to hear from women who felt burned and cold really badly like me but who now 1)feel respected, 2)get the good sex, and 3)AREN'T on some level trying to prove their worth (with career or beauty).

Can you rediscover pleasure with men once you hit that insecure aging part of 30, or is it all downhill? What got you there? What would you suggest to the younger version of yourself that was scared? I want to feel totally beautiful again, I don't want to worry about the changes in my skin.

Yes, I need to find pleasure in life, I need to fix many other things, i know that -but tell me about mature passion and long-lasting romance. Give me the goods ladies, I want to know! (I'm wondering how many silly teenage fiction responses this will encourage).

Posted on Mon, 29 Sep 2008 11:35:54 GMT at http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?...554AAvpbEB